‘I love you and I am sorry’: Tragic final text of husband, 46, who hanged himself in woods after being told to go and stay with his parents following blazing row with new wife
- Matthew Speake, 46, got into blazing row with wife Emma at his parent’s home
- Couple continued argument at their Oxfordshire home before Matthew left
- Inquest heard Emma to go back to his parents’ home to which he replied ‘I love you and I am sorry’
- His body was found hanging in nearby Sutton Courtnay the next day
- Coroner concluded a verdict of suicide before adding it was an ‘upsetting’ case
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A husband who was forced out of his family home after a raging row with his new bride was found hanged just months after their dream wedding, an inquest heard today.
Matthew Speake was told to go over to his parents’ home to ‘cool down’ after a fight with wife Emma.
But when he was refused back to the home hours after the row, the 46-year-old sent a last chilling text message to Emma which read: ‘Everything you need is in the car, I love you and I am sorry.’
The day before his tragic death, the family had travelled to visit Matthew’s father on his birthday to deliver a birthday cake and presents, when a heated argument broke out.
The body of Matthew Speake, 46, was found hanging in Sutton Courtnay, Oxfordshire, the day after he had a blazing row with his new wife Emma, an inquest heard today
Matthew had gotten into a blazing row with wife Emma after making a trip to his parent’s home. But the row continued at their own home in Didcot, Oxfordshire, before Matthew left after being ‘encouraged’ him to go back to his parents house ‘to watch the football’. In a chilling final text message, he told Emma: ‘I love you and I am sorry’
The coroner heard this continued later on in their own home in Cotswold Park, Didcot, Oxfordshire.
Sobbing in the inquest today, the mother-of-three Emma Speake, who married Matthew just six months before his death, said: ‘Matty could be quite confrontational, he always wanted to be right even when he was wrong.
‘We all got on well but we could clash and there could be arguments.
‘On July 7, we arrived back at the house after leaving his father’s home and there was an altercation. He was shouting and we encouraged him to go to his parents house to watch the football.
The next morning when Matthew, a full time carer, had not been seen or heard from, his wife and step-children searched parks and car parks before police officers arrived at their front door
‘When things got a bit too much for Matty, he left the house to calm down. He would often send messages – sometimes he would not be contactable for a while – it was not unusual for him to disappear.’
The inquest in Oxford heard how the former landscape gardener had sent a text message asking his wife how long he should stay out for, to which she replied that he should stay out.
His final text message read: ‘Everything you need is in the car, I love you and I am sorry.’
The next morning when Matthew, a full time carer, had not been seen or heard from, his wife and step-children searched parks and car parks before police officers arrived at their front door.
Officers said that Matthew’s body had been discovered hanging by a fisherman near The Fish public house in Sutton Courtnay, Oxfordshire
Officers said that Matthew’s body had been discovered hanging by a fisherman near The Fish public house in Sutton Courtnay, Oxfordshire.
The inquest heard that it was the tattoo of his daughter Megan Speake on his wrist that helped to identify him to paramedics, who declared him deceased at 12.20pm on July 8.
Assistant coroner Nicholas Graham concluded a verdict of suicide before adding it was an ‘upsetting’ case.
In an online tribute, friend Wayne Saunders said: ‘He was a top fella with a heart of gold, RIP Speaky and fly high brother, you will be partying with the rest of the boys now.’
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